Dividing up Responsibilities

Having a large family is a gift for parents. They get to raise multiple personalities that grow up to be happy and functioning adults due to their mentoring and nurturing. Not that it isn’t okay to elect to have just one. It is that there are many special advantages that come with having additional children. Each one enriches the lives of the others and offers a perspective on life like no other. Parents talk all the time about how different their kids are and it is with pride that they notice their different talents and attributes. Each day can be a surprise. Their job is to get all these personalities to meld well together and to teach sharing and respect for one’s private space and special interests. What it comes down to is how siblings interrelate whether there are all girls, all boys, or some of each. Depending upon the mix, the dynamics of the family will change and grow. It is a joy to see siblings bond and, in effect, becomes friends for life. You are building the foundation for future relationships that go on through adulthood. This is not always the case. As children, the bonding takes different forms. Some siblings have common interests and some do not so the parents have to foster activities that include everyone. Even young ones need not be forgotten when planning communal events.

It is what happens day to day that matters and this applies first and foremost to chores. You must divide up responsibilities and make sure that the person assigned can manage the task. You wouldn’t want to see failure which affects self-esteem. For example, if a child is asked to wash the car, an older sibling can help by using the car vacuum to clean the interior which might be a little cumbersome for the young one. Sharing chores develops caring for others and a sense of helping out when needed. It builds pride to be able to contribute your fair share. There are small tasks that don’t need much assistance, but many times a little friendly help makes things go smoothly. Thus children do not shirk their duties knowing they can be managed. They want to please their parents and execute chores with ease.

Children have to feel that the division of labor in the family is fair and justified. No one should have to do the dishes all the time or have to clean the bathtub that others have used. There are certain tasks like taking out the trash, washing the dog, raking leaves, or scrubbing the garage floor that are distasteful to some but not others. You want to match the chore with the right child; but the way around the problem is to have more than one tackle it. It gets done faster and no one feels they are singled out for things they despise. Kids respect parents who divide up responsibilities and consider their preferences. It makes for a more content, happy family environment.